I’m a single Black male, 25 y.o. and feel like there’s still a significant stigma with dating Black men (for other races). I’ve been out with friends and have met their friends/associates and we have a great time talking, dancing, etc. Yet I feel like they shy away from dating because of my race. I know some of you may say “maybe they just don’t like you and it has nothing to do with your race,” but oftentimes I’ve asked the friends that I’ve met these girls through and the answer usually is “she’s never dated a Black guy before and I don’t know if she’ll start.”
I don’t think these girls are racist. Maybe it is preference. However, I think I can tell when someone is attracted to me and when there’s a significant connection, and if this is the case, what’s up with the stigma? Just curious.
Thats a tough one. Being a white female in my early thirties I’ve mostly dated white men because it was something that I was brought up to do. It wasn’t that I didnt think black guys were cute, but that I was told they weren’t for me when I was younger. Since then, I have learned truly that it is not the color of your skin, but whats inside the persons soul that matters. I am married to a man who is of mixed Asian/Spanish descent, and I was a little nervous at first because it was out of my “norm”. But we had such a connection, the thought faded quickly when we met in person (we met online)
Now, I can’t believe I ever listened to anyones crap about who I should or should not have dated, because he is the sexiest man alive. This also got me thinking about black men, and how it was taboo to date them. (this is real phenomenon in white families, albeit wrong) I quickly realized the absurdity of it all. Remember its not you, it’s a thing in our society that is going to take time to get past. Personally, I am doing my part by telling my kids they can be with who they want, black, white, purple.. as long as they’re happy. GL!
There are plenty of women from other races who love to date black men maybe you’re just around the few that don’t. Look elsewhere.